So, since the dawn of my young adult life, I’ve been a person who always changes his hair style. I especially used to change a lot in my beard’s style, while still experimenting a few times in removal of body hair.
My hair style keeps with my thinking – behind each and every beard style there’s a thought and a pattern of behavior associated.
Only after going to UD starting to have liberty of behavior, did I venture into experimenting fully with a Full Beard, because in Bahrain, you would always get the What’s Wrong With You kinda look, while in America nobody really cares how you shave or don’t. It’s all your own business.
So after coming to Bahrain, being forced to see a Psychiatrist who always mentions that he doesn’t interfere in personal issues, while practically every two or three times commenting on my beard, just feels like going back to the old Bahraini Bully game.
A Dr. who’s absolutely unfamiliar with one’s pattern of behavior gets to determine that only because you shaved your “huge beard” that you’re unstable. I mean, these people are so funny, they put on so much collective pressure on you to shave, and when you grudgingly shave, you’re unstable because: Look! you grew it again!
The growing of hair is a contemplative spiritual exercise than one cannot explain to a secular Psychiatrist with all the predetermined pictures of what a normal person looks like.
I mean, where does the image that a normal person is the person who always shaves “cleanly” come from? Isn’t it from Western Civilization, passed to us through occupation?
Shakespeare says beauty is in the eye of the beholder, and this is just something that I always contemplate on when growing beards. What do people see when they see my beard after all? They see a person who’s too dysfunctional to shave, or maybe they see a person who looks like ISIS, or a Guevara-wanna-be like the good old Psychiatrist once commented.
Do these people not see that a person growing beard is just walking on the spiritual path that millions of people walked on? Growing a beard when done without any name attached as to why it’s there is a deep spiritual exercise. Different cultures have different habits as to what hair gets shaven and what hair doesn’t. For example, the picture of the ideal guy in Western civilization is tending towards a guy who doesn’t have any hair on his body, as the advertisements are focusing more and more on this image, and marketers are using a lot of images to sell their shaving products. This is so clear, if you notice things with an astute eye, that many men with hairy chests choose to hide it using a white t-shirt below their shirts as though hair was a vulgar thing that can’t be revealed.
In some cultures, it’s usual for men to shave their eyebrows, in some cultures, like the Extremist Islamic one, beards don’t get shaven at all. In some others, shaving mustaches is a big mistake.
The shaving of hair being a sign of instability is a sign of what I call a contamination of knowledge.
A contamination of knowledge happens when one sees a phenomenon that one doesn’t know how to explain, but imposes on it a certain structure that it deviates from and gives it a name. [instability].
For someone like me, The Truth is Momentarily Changing, while for my Psychiatrist, the Truth is Fixed, the Ideal way for someone to look is Fixed: Western suite, Western Closely-Shaven beard, with a token mustache to keep the Arab look.